So my youngest son, who is 11, has shown a love of fire a couple times this week. He has been diagnosed with Auditory Processing Disorder as well as ADHD minus the hyperactivity (I had no idea that you could have ADHD and NOT be hyper, but you can, as I just found out recently…. I always wondered why they just didn’t say he had ADD). In all the testing write up, the testing doctor said that my son had the propensity of getting into trouble as he gets older.
We have not medicated our son as of yet, and he was diagnosed last summer. My husband is a big anti-meds kinda guy, and I am of the opinion, if you need it, take it. But we both felt that he didn’t need any medication at the point when we found out his diagnosis.
However, I have begun to worry. He can not focus when doing homework, he is easily distracted, and…. he is constantly doing stupid shit and getting in trouble. And now, he keeps setting fire to trash in the basement. He has done this twice this week. Now, as a youngster, he had a fascination with fire as well. But, I thought it was just a kid thing; curious and what not, and he was 4-ish at the time.
I have spoken with the husband about the current goings on (because, ya know…. he is never home). I asked him if he thought it was time for a Dr. visit and maybe think about meds or perhaps therapy again. “No, I will just have a talk with him.”
Well, genius, I have talked to him twice now about this whole fire thing. It doesn’t seem to have sunk in. And I keep getting on him about doing stupid shit, that he KNOWS he shouldn’t be doing (a lot of destructive behavior).
I have to second guess myself because being Bipolar, I tend to jump to conclusions. I tend to panic over little things, and so now, I’m wondering if I am making a mountain out of a molehill. As you can imagine, it is difficult living with a person who is anti-medication, and has nothing mentally wrong with them. He can be quite understanding and supportive when he can actually see me breakdown, but he can’t and will never understand the daily struggle of trying to keep on a happy, normal face, and trying to be normal all the time…. Essentially, he will never know what it means to live as two different people and to never actually be who you are because you have to hide things/feelings from others who just don’t get it.
I’m looking for suggestions and perhaps some insight. If any of you are parents of a child with ADHD and/or Auditory Processing Disorder, how would you go about tackling this issue?