I found out that there are Al Anon meetings right around the corner from my house every Monday at 7:30. I would like to muster up enough courage to go to one. I don’t know what to expect. And I don’t know how I am going to explain me leaving the house. I guess I could lie and say it is a Bipolar Support meeting. But, I’m a horrible liar and the guilt would kill me.

11 thoughts on “Contemplation”

  1. Ahaaa! Alanon. It was my saving grace. Go in the name of ‘self care’. I also couldn’t account for the time away from home, so I was honest. He was hostile on my return, always accusing of ‘talking about him behind his back’. But in reality, its all about YOU, not the addict. Its your time, your support. I would urge you to go. Its a safe-haven with genuine support from people who walk in your shoes. Good luck and enjoy it. Oh, and stay for the tea and cake afterwards. That’s were the most healing happens xx

    1. Thank you for the advice and support. I’m really going to try to go. I do need some sort of support system with people who have been in my position. It is scary but I am going to try my hardest to go tomorrow.

  2. Be honest, be open. You have to be the one that takes the first step but it is a journey best undertaken with your family.

    1. Sometimes being honest is scary. I don’t want to rock the boat and cause conflict. If he is not ready to deal with his problem, then he is not ready. But I feel I could use the support. We’ll see what happens. Maybe I will be honest, it is times like these where I kind of just go with what falls out of my mouth. I’m just scared.

      1. Speaking as a spouse I would be more upset if my wife didn’t trust me with the truth.

  3. Does your husband know anything about the alcoholism? If not you could always try to tell him. He and you seem to have a good relationship so I’m sure he’d understand. xx

    1. He is aware he has a problem. But it is mostly an unspoken thing. Sometimes I wonder if it is just that has the problem with his problem, and I might be making a mountain out of a molehill. This is one of the things I want to talk about when I start therapy.

  4. Al-Anon is a support group for families and friends of Alcoholics. Its for you. Be brave and try it. Alcoholism is a very lonely illness – it helps to have people around you who are going through the same things and won’t judge you. Good Luck!

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