We are allowed to feel what we feel. Our feelings are valid, and don’t let anyone tell you different.
I grew up with my mom telling me all the time “Other people have it worse than you, stop complaining.”
That has followed me all through my life. I never feel like my feelings are valid. I’ve always felt like I didn’t have Bipolar or PTSD because I was never hospitalized. I even had guilt saying I have bipolar, because I was afraid people would tell me that I didn’t have it because I didn’t have so many breakdowns, or I didn’t have mania as often or because I’ve never been hospitalized. Other people have it worse than me, so my diagnosis are invalid. But, I DO have these things. Just because my story is different, doesn’t mean the diagnosis are invalid.
My sexual abuse – I never felt like I could call it “abuse” because Other people had it worse than I did. Other people’s abuse was way more terrible than what I had experienced. But I WAS abused. And the events DID happen. I’m just lucky the abuse was not as bad as some others experience.
My abuse growing up as a child, I never recognized as abuse, because other people had it worse than I did. I didn’t get burned, or have bruises or broken bones. Other people had it worse than I did. So, certainly I wasn’t abused.
Our situations may be different, but our experiences are valid. our feelings are valid. Don’t let anyone take that away from you.